Okay guys its time for a heart to heart.
Life ain’t easy, its true we like to complicate it; I mean what do we actually need beyond food, water, and shelter? But it would still be nice to have a road map (which is why I like talking to old people). I don’t have a road map but I’ll happily offer what assistance I’m able.
We all know what the word “no” means, but if you want to become a master of your own life, there are three types of “no” you must learn to deal with and control. The first one is learning how to take “no” from others. We are emotional creatures and it can hurt us when things don’t go our way. When we want something, imagining the “better” reality where that thing happens then hear “no” we can get upset. Getting rejected is a bummer, and our feelings tend to focus one what could have been. The thing is though, these “no’s” usually aren’t intended as a personal attack to hurt our feelings, so don’t get upset with yourself or someone rejecting your! (even though your a total catch *cough cough* Kaylee *cough cough*). If we wanna become stronger, we must take these rejections not as the closing of a door, but as the opening of one thousand new ones! Redirection not rejection!
The second type of no is the one you must learn to dish out yourself. Everyone has a different moral code and set of priorities, but it is good for you and others to help friends or people in need. It can also be nice to go to events (ones you don’t really care about) to support a friend or family member! This doesn’t mean you wanna become butter spread over too much bread however, and by that I mean over extend yourself to the point of exhaustion or ignoring your own health. I don’t just mean physical either everyone has a balance of going out to staying in that they’re comfortable with, and its important to find yours too. It’s also worth mentioning that people will not you if you speak up for yourself, and if they do; you were probably better off without this friend anyway. You’re important, and what you care about matters too <3 so tell’em no!
Ok so you’ve mastered how the outside environment treats you with the first one, the second one allows you to effect your environment in the way that suits you best. The third type of no, which is the hardest for me admittedly, is the one you must learn to tell yourself. This one is seems simple but I would like to dive into the profound effects real quick. When you tell somebody no, you mean there is a 0% chance of this thing happening. If you really tell yourself no and mean it, then you can change your destiny; today. I’m not talking about the “oh I’m on a diet I’ll say no to this pizza today”, or the “no I don’t wanna do that because I did that last time and didn’t like the ramifications!”. It’s those statements from your inner dialogue to the Nth degree. “I wont eat that pizza until I meet my weight goal” or “I wont do that because It wont make me better”. These examples may be kind of abstract but imagine the metaphysical properties of a self created maxim. If tomorrow you were to say “no” to lying, or drugs, or racism, or whatever forever, who would you become? If you say “no” and really mean it you really could pull a 180 in life, no matter where you are 🙂
Aim high people, thanks for reading!